3 Reasons Why You can Lose The Girl By Lying To Her

You found a girl you like and you may think that lying to her is going to make you look better or make her think better of you. Chances are though that as soon as you tell a lie you have set yourself up to lose the girl.

3 Reasons Why You Can Lose the Girl By Lying To Her

1. She Will Be Suspicious

When you lie you give off signals that you are lying. They may be subtle signs of lying, but any girl with a little awareness will feel that something isn’t right.

That little feeling will nag at her and she will sometimes stop and wonder WHY she has that feeling. She will know it’s about you, but she won’t be able to put her finger on it, and eventually when she finds out the truth about you (which she will) she will say “I knew it! I knew something was off!” and all that time of feeling weird will build up into anger that she didn’t see it sooner. And this means you will most likely lose the girl.

2. You Will Not Build a Solid Foundation of Trust

Because she will have this nagging feeling that something is off she will not allow trust to be solid and hole-free. She will lay a foundation of trust down that is rocky and flimsy and when she finds out that you lied (which she will) you will find that it will be hard to regain her trust back if she doesn’t leave you because the foundation wasn’t that great to begin with.

This is true. If you don’t give her anything to be suspicious about, and vice-versa, you end up building a solid foundation of trust in your relationship that will allow for an occasional mishap. It will be so solid that it will be less likely to crumble beneath your feet when one of you screws up.

Point being – If she doesn’t have a solid foundation of trust to begin with, and you lie to her, then you can lose the girl very quickly.

Build a solid foundation of trust by not lying to her.

3.  When She Learns The Truth She Will View You As a Loser, Dumbass, Idiot or Stranger

I’ve had this happen to me many times. A guy will tell me something in order to make me think he knows something he doesn’t or he does something he doesn’t, and when I find out the truth he just looks pathetic for lying about it, and it’s obvious that his self-confidence is low.

Being yourself is important. A girl likes you for who you are, not who you want to be, so if you tell her that you are a math whiz when you are not, then chances are one of the reasons she likes you is because she thinks you are a math whiz and not because of who you actually are. You can’t blame her! You lied to her and made her think you were someone you are not – and attraction is about who you are as a guy.

Be confident in yourself by not lying to her about who you are, how you think, what you do, and who you want to be.  That way she won’t find out the truth about you after you really like her, and you won’t lose the girl because of a dumb lie that you thought would impress her.